Most men want to improve their sexual stamina and last longer in bed so that they can fulfill the needs of their female partners.
Coming to a climax too soon while you are in the throes of pleasure can be highly embarrassing, as well as unfulfilling for your partner.
The old saying “think of baseball” to keep your mind off sex is something many men try to do when they want to last longer in bed.
While you can try to last longer by using mental distraction techniques – such as taking your mind off for a few moments during intercourse – this strategy is flawed and has its drawbacks.
Here’s why distraction strategies don’t work…
The purpose of making love is not just to allow yourself to come to a climax quickly. You want to enjoy her body as well as allow her to enjoy yours at the same time, thus mutually prolonging the pleasure.
For optimal satisfaction, intercourse should last longer than just a couple of minutes. However, if you focus on something else other than sex in an effort to last longer, chances are she will be able to see through what you are doing and get turned off instead. Not only that, lovemaking will cease to be a pleasurable experience for both of you.
Women crave an emotional connection with their partners when they make love. This goes along with passionate lovemaking that will have her thinking you are a sensuous lover.
Thinking of something other than sex while having intercourse will result in rote, passionate sex that no woman will enjoy. If you want to have a hot sex life, then you have to put some passion into the game.
So what are the best ways to make sex last longer?
There a number of proven strategies that work really well. For example, you should identify your orgasm threshold and strengthen the muscles that contract in the pelvic area before you reach a climax. Stay focused on these muscles so that you can keep them relaxed and last longer.
There are also some creative positions that will give you more endurance. For example, you could have her sit on top of you, so that she can enjoy the pleasure of intercourse without you reaching an orgasm too soon.
Recognizing and associating the sensations leading up to an orgasm, and then adjusting your movements to reduce arousal will also lead to more enduring and much more satisfying sex!